I Only Say This Because I Love You: (Record no. 3507)
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| control field | 3507 |
| 005 - DATE AND TIME OF LATEST TRANSACTION | |
| control field | 20240601185932.0 |
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| 020 ## - INTERNATIONAL STANDARD BOOK NUMBER | |
| International Standard Book Number | 9780679456018 |
| 040 ## - CATALOGING SOURCE | |
| Transcribing agency | Booku |
| 082 ## - DEWEY DECIMAL CLASSIFICATION NUMBER | |
| Classification number | 173 TAN |
| 100 ## - MAIN ENTRY--PERSONAL NAME | |
| Personal name | Deborah Tannen |
| 245 ## - TITLE STATEMENT | |
| Title | I Only Say This Because I Love You: |
| Remainder of title | How The Way We Talk Can Make Or Break Family Relationships Throughout Our Lives |
| 520 ## - SUMMARY, ETC. | |
| Summary, etc. | Why does talk in families so often go in circles, leaving us tied up in knots? In this illuminating book, Deborah Tannen, the linguist and bestselling author of You Just Don't Understand and many other books, reveals why talking to family members is so often painful and problematic even when we're all adults. |
| Expansion of summary note | Searching for signs of acceptance and belonging, we find signs of disapproval and rejection. Why do the seeds of family love so often yield a harvest of criticism and judgment? In I Only Say This Because I Love You , Tannen shows how important it is, in family talk, to learn to separate word meanings, or messages, from heart meanings, or metamessages — unstated but powerful meanings that come from the history of our relationships and the way things are said. Presenting real conversations from people's lives, Tannen reveals what is actually going on in family talk, including how family conversations must balance the longing for connection with the desire for control, as we struggle to be close without giving up our freedom.<br/><br/>This eye-opening book explains why grown women so often feel criticized by their mothers; and why mothers feel they can't open their mouths around their grown daughters; why growing up male or female, or as an older or younger sibling, results in different experiences of family that persist throughout our lives; and much, much more. By helping us to understand and redefine family talk, Tannen provides the tools to improve relationships with family members of every age. |
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| Koha item type | Book |
| Suppress in OPAC | No |
| Withdrawn status | Lost status | Source of classification or shelving scheme | Damaged status | Not for loan | Collection | Home library | Current library | Date acquired | Source of acquisition | Total checkouts | Full call number | Barcode | Date last seen | Copy number | Price effective from | Koha item type |
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| Dewey Decimal Classification | Family & Parenting | Booku Library Services | Booku Library Services | 01/06/2024 | Donation | 173 TAN | 9780679456018 | 01/06/2024 | 1 | 01/06/2024 | Book |